SO SO crazy two weeks ago my birth mom friend said that she was going to Boise to stay with her adoptive couple and their little girl. She said she was going to take her little girl to the park without her adoptive parents. I was like WOW that is cool, she said she asked for it and they said ok.
I feel like whenever I think anything that is when I get a text or call about whatever I am thinking about. They are SO inspired. Well, I was a little jealous of my friend and I got a text from baby boys mom asking if I could watch him on Friday because both of them had to work. I asked my boss and she said yes so I took the day off.
I slept over on Thursday night so I wouldn't have to wake up at the crack of dawn and it was so so fun. That night baby boys dad was SO SO endearing, he said, "Thanks so much for taking the day off to watch our son." the phrase "Our son" stayed with me. Did he mean all 3 of us or him and his wife? Either way I will just pretend he meant all three of us. He is my little boy just not legally but I think we all will be in Heaven as a family after this life. I loved it. Melted my heart. He was so sincere. He is really the BEST dad and I am happy our sweet boy has such loving parents. I think I talked to his mom about this and she said something really nice too. They melt me. I never feel like they put me below them which is SO kind of them. I love them.
I could talk to his mom all night long but we didn't. We went to bed at 11:30. They also walked me through all the meds and all the day of what to expect. I loved that. I like to be in the know and it confirms how much they love their baby.
Baby's dad went to work at 6:10 and he wouldn't be back till late that night. I woke up right before he left for a bathroom break then heard Baby's mom around 7:30 and baby boy. I jumped up to say good bye and get breakfast rolling. We had pancakes that were AMAZING. Like really good. We made them with coconut almost milk and didn't need any syrup which of course we are so healthy ;) They said he loved pancakes and I couldn't help but remember eating pancakes with strawberries every Saturday morning when I was a prego. SO yummy. I am so happy that I get to see those things. But I never say that to them because I don't ever want to hurt anyone's feelings and I love them.
So we went out side with the dog Jack. Baby boy is SO good at saying his name and it is darling. So we played with him for a bit but he wanted to be pushed in the cute car stroller like below. So that was us. We went on a walk and ended up at the playground to SLIDE. He loved going on the slide but always wanted help and he would say, help me. I of course would and he would copy my excitement in whatever I would scream ahah it was so cute and SO SO SO fun.
Mr Independent pushed the car stroller back the whole way. till we almost got to his street then as we got to his street he jumped out and said slide and started walking back to the park. Well nap time was around the corner and I told him we needed to go see Jack and so he was fine with that. We went and let his dog out and got him down for his nap.
He picked out two books- I can't even remeber the other one but one of them was this book. In the front someone gave this to baby's mom and said this was a little boy I am assuming someone who was adopted book.
It wasn't little boys story and of course it kinda offended me because that is who I am. The one line about the birth mom was like she was too young to take care of me. That's it. I guess good thing I made him my own book so it is fine and I am glad that there are adoption books but sometimes it isn't because she couldn't take care of you. She could have... oh well moving on.
(I keep wanting to make a new adoption book because of this one. It just turns me even almost 2 months later. and this is nothing against the mom and dad or whoever gave it to them or whoever likes it. I am just sensitive about things. I can't change the world. MY OWN FAMILY still says gave up and I just as Christlike as possible say place. I guess we all have our own sensitive spots) I am glad that there is a book about adoption because it should be normal and inviting, it is!
love wins ;)
I was EXHAUSTED and also fell asleep.
I was sending updates to his parents through out the day. He is SO cute and I don't blame them for being worried. Not one bit. I was so worried after placing him so I just kept thinking that. They trust me as I trust them but you just want the best.
Well we woke up and headed to his Nana and Papa's house. He ate and then we played outside. He is the BEST eater BTW. He out ate me every meal! It was so fun to see baby's moms parents. THEY ARE SO SWEET.(everyone is that I meet that he is related to) Baby boy followed Nana around yelling her name whenever she was out of site. IT WAS SO CUTE. The cool thing Papa told me was they were going to meet their adoptive son's birth mom on Saturday. WOW! Cool.
Well, then we went to get my car and then we went and got my car tested then baby boys dad texted me. I debate putting this in here because I have to type it up but I just have to, it is REAALLLLLLY endearing how good of a dad he is. This day was Friday 5/29/15 I have been saving publishing this post so I could type in the convo. So I started updating them on him all day and then baby's dad sent a text after a few hours of me not saying anything.
2:36- dad-How is (baby boys nick name)?
2:40- me- I sent a picture of baby boy eating popcorn and I said I am getting gmy emissions done at jiffy lube and we're eating popcorn. Just saw nana and papa
2:41- dad- watch the popcorn, he can choke. I've never gave him popcorn.
2:42 me- ok. He'd doing great so far.
2:44 dad- okay good. Just don't want him to choke on the popcorn seeds.
2:46 mom- I've given him popcorn. He did fine. Just avoided the kernels. I'm almost done and can leave. Just helping a friend move desks.
2:47 me- Oh yay. Ok. He's doing good. Best eater ever!
3:02 me- just had a poop
I was truly laughing and just love how they are both so LOVING and trusting of me watching baby boy. Our babe.
By the way, he was the best pooper. It didn't even smash up against his bum. THANK GOODNESS> I was the most worried about that. Even though it seems so silly. I gag with those things and it is kinda embarrassing when that happens.
We got back to his house and got to spend the rest of the night with his mom and him and our friends my friend Linds and her little girl. We loved it and I had a blast with all of them and felt so included. Then we went home and they had their night and I went to see my BF for my hot Friday night date.
I am truly the luckiest birth mom.
We are so lucky that open adoption is normal for us and is a thing for us. We grew into it but we love it. I love them so much and am grateful for their support and love and prayers.
Love you all!
Mama Alice
