openness

Most people are so baffled by open adoption, honestly I don't really get it. Well, that is a lie, I use to be the same way and I use to think that I wanted a closed adoption.

side note as I type this little e is trying to eat my hands, his hands and everything. he is sitting on my lap and I am bouncing him as I type.

 okay so openness. It is strange right. I think because I have never really seen adoption from a birth mom. I don't think really anything is ever going to be in aggreance about what a birth mom feels or anyone for that matter because we are all different.

I can't help but compare adoption to animals. Have any of you seen this video?




I watched this and thought of being a birth mom. I hate that feeling of buying life. Buying a dog. I have such a hard time with it. Buying. That is why I won't ever be able to sell pups. I remember when I was a teenager and my dog had pups and we sold all but one of them... she got ran over by a truck later and she never ever chased trucks before then. I think now it was suicide of a broken heart. She wasn't the same dog after, she was so grouchy and angry. Can you blame her?

That is why birth moms have to be 100% no regrets.

Yes, of course someday we will get a dog but I have crazy feelings about it. Maybe we will adopt because there are so many abandoned animals. THAT BREAKS MY HEART. BIG TIME.

So why are we so open? For the health of it. :) It is so easy. Natural and we keep the golden rules. Being honest. Communication and we have boundaries that we respect. There are other things with that but those are the 3 that come to mind-

I could write about 8 million more things but time is up-


Mama Alice.