27 weeks one day

GOOD MORNING!!

So, I started watching Juno yesterday. Maybe not a good idea but it brought back all the memories of things I don't like about ignorant people. I don't like it when anyone is ignorant but that is just the thing, we all can't know everything. I can't know about a country that I haven't been to and know that the girl that is standing right in front of me speaks English because guess what her native tongue in her country is ENGLISH. It shocks me.  When I would be with this poor young woman I just wanted to be like, HELLO!! That is how it is now with placement. I want to say HELLO!

SO IGNORANCE. I was reading the families blog about thing you shouldn't say to the adoptive mom. Like on Juno when Juno says to her adoptive mom, be glad it isn't you carrying the baby. I KNOW FOR A FACT I say things like that. I sometimes don't know what to say. It is like talking to someone who is gay or black. I don't know how to not offend someone and I try to be careful but I am not so great at that. I think for the most part if someone if showing the love me and they say something offensive then it doesn't hurt my feelings and sometimes I will correct them because I think how will they know if I don't tell them!

I wish all the world that this could be adoptive mom carrying this baby and magically I wouldn't have to do to the consequence. I think she wants that too. I talk about transferring the baby to her. It just isn't part of how the world turns. She could wear all the tight fitting clothes and have people stare at her belly. Instead it is single me walking around alone and being a prego talking two baths when I am constipated and laying in bed wishing that someone would get me a drink of water or bring me some chap stick. I think it is a little bit not fair.

She did a post about what not to say to a lady in her shoes.

WHAT NOT TO SAY TO A SINGLE PREGO LADY

1. Are you pregnant?

If I want you to know I am prego, I will tell you. I talked to my mom about this and we decided I am going to ask them if they are pregnant when they ask me. I love having a plan. Then I will say, if I want you to know I am pregnant I will let you know. Is that rude? Is it rude to ask someone if they are pregnant? OH THE BATTLES> ( those birth dads have no idea GRRRR) Maybe I will say I have a tumor and the doctor says I am going to die soon so I try not to think about it. I DUNNO! THIS WILL BE A TRIAL SOON!

2. What are your plans?

I don't want to tell you. Just worry about yourself, I already have a support system and if I need ya I will call you.

3. Are you going to give your baby away?

IT IS CALLED PLACING!! That use to not be such a big deal because that is what I use to say. NOW I DON'T AND SHOULDN'T EVERYONE BE THE SAME AS ME? I have been telling people I want to educate them because in the adoption world it is very offensive to hear give instead of place and I want them to know for the future.

4. Your pregnant, I know someone who needs a baby.

Believe me, I NEVER KNEW that so many people were adopting till I was pregnant. It is really sad to hear about

5. I am so glad I am not in your position.

Well duh.

6. I am glad I don't have a baby inside of me.

I am not looking for someone to tell me my situation stinks. I already know!

7. The Law of Chasity is a big problem today isn't it?
HMMM, should have told me that a few months ago! That REALLY TICKS ME OFF.

8. Are your parents LDS? Have you always been active?
EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES! I have done everything right... so far in my life. I am a sinner buddy, just like you! It doesn't make sense to me just like it doesn't make sense to you.

That is all I have so far.

I am sure there will be more soon.